DO NOT BEAR A GRUDGE AGAINST ANOTHER
To bear a grudge, to carry resentment in one’s heart toward another person, to have any measure of unforgiveness toward someone is to transgress and violate Yahweh’s commands given to the children of Yisrael.
WAYYIQRA (LEVITICUS) 19:18, “Do not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the children of your people. And you shall love your neighbor as yourself. I am YAHWEH.”
YA’ACOB (JAMES) 5:9, “Do not grumble against each other, brothers, lest you be judged. See the Judge is standing at the door (the Ruach haKodesh is our conscience)!
When we bear a grudge or grumble or murmur against someone for something that they have said or done to us it is a very grave sin on our part.
I YOHANAN (JOHN) 3:4, “Everyone doing sin also does lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness (transgression against, violation of, and disobedience to Yahweh’s Torah instructions.”
We must always forgive others no matter what they have done to us.
MATTHEW 6:14-15,“For if you forgive men their trespasses (sins or offences done against you), your heavenly Father shall also for give you (of your sins and offences done against others). But if you do not forgive men their trespasses (sins or offences done against you), neither shall your Father forgive your trespasses (sins and offences done against others).
For if we do not forgive others, we only harm our own spiritual walk and we will begin to manifest the sin that is in our hearts through our outlook on others, in our speech, and actions to others. The sin will be revealed to others when it is exposed in the light of
Torah and in the fellowship of Torah observant believers.
EPHESIANS 5:13, “But all matters (including sin) being reproved (confuted, exposed) are manifested by the light (Truth), for whatever is manifested is light (Truth).”
I YOHANAN (JOHN) 2:9-10, “The one who says he is in the light (thinks he is in the Truth but is deceived by his sin), and hates his brother (bears a grudge, harbors hatred, harbors unforgiveness), is in the darkness (sinful carnal mind of the flesh, not the mind of Messiah) until now. The one who loves his brother stays in the light (Truth), and there is no stumbling-block (hidden sins) in him.”
I YOHANAN (JOHN) 1:6-7, “If we say that we have fellowship with Him (Yahweh/Yahshua), and walk in darkness (display thoughts, words, and actions of sin against another), we lie (to ourselves and others) and are not doing the truth (practicing Yahweh‘s Torah instructions). But if we walk in the light (obedience to Yahweh’s Torah instructions), we have fellowship with one another, and the blood (atonement) of Yahshua Messiah His Son cleanses us from all sin.”
I TIMOTHY 5:24-25, “The sins of some men are obvious (open to other‘s eyes), leading onto judgment, but those of some men follow later (are more hidden but will manifest eventually). In the same way, the good works are obvious (open/able to be seen by others and accessed to be good works by others), while it is impossible to conceal (hide) those that are otherwise (bad works).”
Everyone has a human carnal nature that has a habitual tendency or inclination to sin against Yahweh’s instructions. That is why we are not to judge others because we have the same ability to sin.
I YOHANAN (JOHN) 1:8, “If we say that we have not sin, we are misleading (deceiving) ourselves, and the truth is not in us.”
I YOHANAN (JOHN) 1:10, “If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar (because His Ruach has sufficiently revealed our sin to us and we have rejected His revelation), and His Word is not in us (alive or not operating in us due to the rejection of the work of the Ruach haKodesh.)”
Because sin hardens our hearts and blinds our eyes to our own sin, and quenches the Ruach haKodesh within us, Yahweh must have a spiritual breakthrough to our mind to see our sin and acknowledge it before Him so that we may be forgiven of the sin and be renewed once again.
I YOHANAN (JOHN) 1:9, “If we confess our sins, He is trustworthy and righteous to forgive us the sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
WORD MEANINGS:
GRUDGE
Wayyiqra (Leviticus 19:18)
Natar - Strong’s Hebrew word #5201 - “to cherish (harbor; willfully hang on to) anger; bear a grudge; keep in reserve (to willfully manifest anger at one’s own opportune timing).
”Psalm 59:15
Luwn/Liyn - Strong’s Hebrew word #3885 - “ to stop or stay permanently; to be obstinate especially in words; to complain; abide all night; continue; dwell; endure; grudge; be left; lie all night; murmur; remain; tarry (all pertaining to negative circumstances or attitudes).”
James 5:9
Stenazo - Strong’s Greek word #4727 - “to make or be in straits (restricted, tight, quenched, distressful, difficult, limited); to sigh; murmur; pray to self with grief; groan; grudge; sigh).”
Grudge - Webster’s Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary - “to grumble; complain; to be unwilling to give or admit; begrudge (to give or concede reluctantly, to look upon with reluctance or disapproval; to take little pleasure in; to envy the pleasure or enjoyment of; a feeling of deep-seated resentment or ill will)”.
GRUDGING
I Peter 4:9
Goggusmos - Strong’s Greek word #1112 - “to grumble; murmur.
II Corinthians 9:7
Ek - Strong’s Greek word #1537 - “the point from where a motion or action proceeds.
Lupe - Strong’s Greek word #3077 - “sadness; grief; grievous; grudgingly; heaviness; sorrow.”
The insight gained from the above definitions pertaining to bearing a grudge or grumbling against another person, enables us to see the range of these sins, and the damage that they may promote when left in one’s heart to manifest their outcome against another person.
Often times, people that are harboring these sins in their hearts, and are not always willing to give them up to Yahweh, become very difficult to talk to, minister to, or keep in a fellowship gathering. These types of sin will keep a person in a carnal frame of mind, and the person will lead himself to think that he does not need to submit to spiritual authority of any kind in a local congregation, and will oftentimes allow himself to verbally disagree unjustly with leadership or abuse or accuse leadership is some demeaning and disrespectful manner.
I TIMOTHY 5:17, “Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double respect, especially those who labor in the word and teaching.
I TIMOTHY 5:19, “Do receive an accusation against an elder except from two or three witnesses (must not be one’s own estimation of what is right or wrong pertaining to an elder and then presented to others behind the elder‘s back. The elder’s actions must be openly seen by two or three people and deemed by mutual agreement and proven to be a violation of Yahweh‘s Torah instructions).”
In closing this teaching, one other point should be referenced. Sometimes, sins of this nature stem from childhood hurts that are hidden away so deeply in one’s heart that it virtually takes Yahweh’s Ruach to search them out, and bring them to the surface to be faced by the individual after he is saved. Unforgiveness toward other people during one’s childhood, such as a mother or father, which has never been properly dealt with or repented of, will surface in one’s adulthood, and motivate an adult to behave grudgingly to others, especially spiritual authority or leadership, and women or men that may bring unintentional disappointments, hurts, or offences to one’s life.
Harboring unforgiveness is very damaging to the individual’s state of mind and his health, and will definitely hinder spiritual growth and maturity. It promotes anger, hatred, flaring temper, self-pity, false judgment and criticism, confusion, instability, depression, ailments, premature aging, darkness of countenance, and many other effects. Life is too precious to waste on these things. Life is given to us to love, worship, praise, and serve Yahweh, and His people.
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